Watching porn together can be really sexy, but it can also be kind of intense. A lot of mainstream porn is graphic, and unless you pay for porn from a reputable site, like XConfessions (from feminist pornographer Erika Lust), it’s hard to know whether or not the people in it were exploited.
For me, reading erotica is the perfect compromise. The Sex Stories app gives you access to all sorts of exciting, sexually-charged tales from writers around the world. The flavor varies from characters who have sweet, vanilla sex, to more hardcore subject matter, like BDSM.
Hubby and I found that reading stories privately, then sending each other links to the ones that turned us on was seriously hot. And more than that, it gave us a whole new way to communicate our desires. I’ve always had fantasies about being with another woman, but I was worried sharing them with my husband might make him feel insecure. After he read a story about a couple having a threesome, he told me how much he would love to watch me get it on with another lady.
While I don’t know if we’ll ever make that a reality, being able to share the fantasy led to bed-breakingly great sex and left me way more open to discussing my desires.