The first thing that comes to mind is food. Luxury. We often miss the most important factor of all – self-love time. Who needs anyone to tell them how they should be relaxing? You’d be surprised – so many of us have one track minds when it comes to work, relationships, house chores, errands – we hardly get time to ourselves. Here are 5 tips and tricks on how to set some time aside for the most important person in your life – you!
1. TREAT IT LIKE AN ERRAND
Setting a reminder is fantastic. If you can set reminders in your Google calendars for work appointments and meetings, you can slot in some time for yourself too. 9PM – 10PM: Couch + wine + the latest episode of that TV show you’ve been hearing about for months. 7.30AM – 8AM: Coffee + Catching up with last week’s podcast.
2. LEARN TO BE SELFISH
Depending on your mindset, being selfish is often frowned upon. Treat it like an important value in life. “In my head I’ve framed it up differently, it’s okay to be selfish and be kind.” Life coach Sharmini Hensen says. “If you don’t look after yourself, you can’t look after anyone else. Generally women – when we’re recharged and revitalised – we only want to give more.” We don’t have any selfish motives. It’s important to know that you are important.
3. GO OFF THE GRID
Take a break from digital life. We’re glued to screens 24/7 (guilty, as I write this article) for work, pleasure, we even treat it as down time, mindlessly scrolling through Instagram after a long day. Sometimes the pressure of social media life can be equally overwhelming. Time to change that. Remember what happened when we spent 5 days without the internet in the middle of the ocean? Life-changing bliss.
4. IT’S NOT A CHORE
Self-care isn’t a chore – it should be an important value of your life, equivalent to eating right, sleeping right, and taking care of your mental health. Cast aside all thoughts of “but instead of spending an hour on self-caring, I can get so much more errands done!” Self-care may vary, if cleaning out that secretly dirty closet is your way of indulging, relaxing, and de-stressing (hello Monica) – then go forth and do you!
5. REMIND YOURSELF IT’S OKAY TO INDULGE
Don’t just enjoy, indulge. Grab a stick of your favourite ice cream out of the freezer (our current favourite is La Cremeria Classically Mint) and take 3-5 minutes to indulge. Sarah Lian’s guide? “Fitness, food (good food and bad food), and trash TV.” The actress laughs, “It’s so good, you don’t have to think, because they’re not thinking either! You don’t feel guilty about it.”
Remember: The world can wait.