Our Tania Tells It Like It Is column features Tania Leong as our advice expert who will tell it like it is when it comes solutions to your problems, be it a relationship issue, a problem with your parents or simply if you’re conflicted. Send in your burning questions to marieclaire(at)bluinc(dot)com(dot)my.
Q: A guy I’ve been seeing for about a year had just proposed. I should be thrilled because it’s all I’ve ever wanted, but right now I’m confused. While I did have good times with him, I recall more times that I had to talk to him about treating me right. He hardly ever answers my calls or text messages, and when he does, it’s like he’s not interested. Two days ago, I finally told him I was over it, and yesterday he suggested that we get married! What do I do?
Tania: You already know your answer. You weren’t thrilled, and that speaks volumes. And you already made the decision to break off. Since you feel that he did not treat you in the manner you would have preferred during your dating stage (which is easy-peasy compared to marriage), why assume he would do any different during marriage? Many women make the mistake of thinking that time may change a man, but if a man needs changing, then he is not the man for you. This does not necessarily make him a bad person; it only means that his ways do not resonate with you because you and he have different expectations or different interpretations of what a successful, happy relationship is. Be clear on what makes you happy, respect your feelings, and love yourself enough to know that you deserve to be with a man who makes you feel special, interesting, and treasured.
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