An estimated 50% of women rarely or never achieve orgasm. The whole idea of the G-spot has been a hot topic of debate since forever. Some researches say it doesn’t exist at all; some say it’s its own thing; some (correctly) identify it as the root of the clitoris.The ugly truth is men are knocking out orgasms like carnival games while women are forever stuck at the top of the ferris wheel (if they even make it that far).
What a lot of women need to realize is that orgasms are not one -size -fits-all situation; in fact, they’re incredibly specific and personal.
We have so much capacity for pleasure, yet we seem to be at a disadvantage for unlocking our orgasmic potential. Either way it’s a beautiful thing and we want in.
Before we unlock our orgasmic potential for vaginal climax or at least try to.. here’s a 411 on G-spot.
The G-spot refers to the anterior wall of the vagina, about two inches inside the vagina. It is a walnut-textured patch located behind the pubic bone. When stimulated, Dr.Kristie Overstreet, PhD, a clinical sexologist and psychotherapist, says that the area swells with blood, causing copious sexual pleasure.
G-spot orgasms are those elusive, deep vaginal orgasms that many of us crave. So let’s get down to it.
- LOCATE THE AREA
Identifying where the G-spot is essential without a doubt. And no a P straight up the V or a dildo in the V penetration doesn’t always hit the G-spot. In fact, studies have shown that only 25% of women have reported of having orgasms through penetration alone.
False. The G-spot is not just up in there somewhere and the more you poke around the closer you are to getting to it. The G-spot’s location is behind the pubic bone means you need to curve upwards towards the belly button to hit it. No straight up and boning down will do it.
“I suggest using any dildo or vibrator that you feel comfortable with. Don’t get too focused on size; the goal is to stimulate the anterior wall of the vagina so the positioning of the toy is more important,” according to Dr Overstreet.
POSITION IS EVERYTHING.
Insert or have a partner do it for you, a G-spot wand or two fingers into the vagina and hook upward. You should be able to pull someone physically by the pubic bone. Feel around and see what you’re working with up there. Some women have reported a G-spot stimulation as a desire to urinate; others have said it’s like a warm wave of water. The feeling varies from one person to another.
- DETERMINE WHAT FEELS GOOD
Experiment with different pressures and movements. Try circular motions, grounded movements and whatever tickles you fancy.
The G-spot is a multidimensional area and certain things may feel better than others. G-spot stimulation may not be enough to produce an orgasm. Try externally stimulating the clitoris with your fingers or a vibrator for an extra arousal. (HINT HINT- not a one-act circus)
- CHOSE THE RIGHT POSITIONS
“The best position to stimulate this area during penetrative sex is woman on top or rear entry. The goal is for the penis or strap-on to hit the anterior wall” says Dr Overstreet.
The coital alignment technique is a must try. get in a classic missionary position, but stick one or two pillows under your butt for an extra lift. This allows your partner’s penis/dildo to curve up towards the G-spot while you simultaneously grind your glans clitoris on his or her public bone.
Key is to not limit yourself to penetration alone. Get your external clitoris in on the action. Utilize a small finger vibrator. Powerful G-spot orgasms are often combined with other forms of sexual touching.
- SOME WOMEN DON’T HAVE THEM AND THAT’S ALRIGHT
Dr Overstreet says that while every female-bodied person has a G-spot and, therefore, the physical capability of having a G-spot orgasm, not every person will though. Some vulva-owning people love deep penetrative stimulation and some do not. “Some women may enjoy stimulation more shallow or deeper on the anterior wall than where the G-spot is located.” says Dr Overstreet.
Some like being penetrated, but don’t have orgasms this way. If you don’t like having your G-spot touched or do like it but don’t find it orgasm-inducing, that’s perfectly fine and normal.