Rachel and Ross didn’t know any better, but we do. We have a licensed professional relationship counsellor to crack it down for us.
“During the break, it’s not about staying from each other and doing nothing. It is best that both of you seek individual and couple counselling – formally or informally.” Dr Yeo Pei Li, Licensed Professional Counsellor of Rekindle Center says. “Taking a break is not taking time off to go for another potential date. Your partner will feel betrayed and feel like they have been taken advantage of.”
Taking a break does not mean going separate ways, it means taking some time away from each other to clear your heads. It’s often used when infidelity happens and you need time away before patching up matter, or when you’re considering marriage – but you’ve only been with each other. The term is purposefully ambiguous, once again defined by the terms of your relationship.
‘Discernment counselling’ is a term used to find out if it’s best to split or move forward together in a relationship.
However, different individuals have different agreements on what taking a break is. Sit down, take the time to spell out the do’s and the don’ts.