It’s that time of the year again where everyone decides to let loose a little to celebrate their hard work and successes but as the alcohol hits you, the music gets louder and the night a little blurrier, many women find themselves in situations that they don’t want to be in whether in the company of others or while they’re alone. Here’s Marie Claire’s top tips to handle these dicey situations.
Situation 1: Your drink has been spiked and you’re feeling a little woozy.
Always, always keep your drink with you. If it’s too cold to hold it or a little heavy, leave it down but constantly keep an eye on your drink. If you have to run to the wash room, have your friend hold it for you but if you’re on a date with someone you still aren’t 100% comfortable with yet, we suggest not doing the same.
If you find yourself in a situation like the one above, and if you’re experiencing one of these symptoms; feeling dizzy or faint, feeling ill or sleepy in the middle of the night, or feeling drunk even if you’ve only had a little bit of alcohol, immediately tell one your friends and stay close to her/him or ask them to take you back home. If you’re alone or with someone you don’t know too well, excuse yourself and take a cab back home. Driving would be a definite no-no in a situation like this.
Situation 2: Someone (you don’t know too well) offers a ride a to you at the end of a party
So you’re at a party and hit it off great with someone. It’s the end of the night and you’ve had a good amount to drink and are feeling pretty buzzed. Your friends have decided to either leave much earlier, or with their dates and you’re left all alone now. Then comes in the knight in shining armour a.k.a. they guy you just met tonight and might have flirted/danced/talked with earlier. He offers you a ride back home. It’s a free ride from a guy you kind of got along with, sounds like a win-win.
What do you do?
Say no! You barely know the guy, you’ve had some good convos under the influence, he drives a nice car, but he’s still a risk not worth taking. You still don’t know him enough for him to gain your trust so why put yourself in a situation where you’re vulnerable?
Situation 3: You follow your date back to his and you’re feeling pressured to do something you don’t want to do.
Keep all communications clear and tell him beforehand about what you’re comfortable and not comfortable with. If your rules seem to be a deal breaker to him, what are you even still doing with him? In situations like these, the only way is to make sure you’re being clear with your intentions.
You’re not obliged to do anything with him neither do you ‘owe’ him. If he really likes you for who you are, he wouldn’t expect anything from you. In the event where he gets insistent or worse, violent, take your things and make your way towards the exit.
There are of course way more situations that women find themselves in especially when there’s alcohol involved. Even without, it’s pretty easy for women to fall victims in unfortunate settings such as walking to their cars on a deserted street, or getting groped in a crowded area. A woman should stay alert and know the causes and ways of attack to fight back or prevent these attacks. Here are some things to consider:
Staying Aware of Your Surroundings
It’s necessary to know the surroundings and stay alert as you do not know when or where you may be attacked. Generally, the attacker picks those who are easy to target. Women should look at the people who are behind or around them, like in the elevator or in a bus, they should also try to know more about the people in the neighbourhood. Stay away from people who try to get physical without any reason. Many women are not aware of the increasing number of date rapes and they make the mistake of assuming that it wouldn’t happen to them. However, anyone can get into such a condition and encounter such dangers in their surroundings. It’s not necessary that the attacker would appear dirty or suspicious; it can be anybody so women are best advised to not trust people by their looks.
Fight vs Flight
In a dangerous situation, women should shout and scream as loud as possible. They should be ready to counterattack the attacker. If the attacker is only interested in grabbing their purse, it’s best to leave it. If the attacker is looking to violate the body, it’s best to learn some techniques to fight back. Women who are ready to fight may scare the attacker away. If there’s a group of attackers or the attacker is too strong, the best thing to do is to take flight. Find any which way to get an opportunity to run as fast as possible. Always run towards places where there are many people.
Non-Physical Self-Defence Techniques
There are certain non-physical methods for fighting back. If the person is trying to touch you, you can say “You are touching me and I do not like it!” in a loud voice. Do not use “Please”. Look into the person’s face and alert people who are around. You can say something right at the time or do something to make the person feel that you are ready to face him. Generally, the attacker targets insecure people so he may retreat when he knows that you are ready to fight. You can even use a weapon to scare away the attacker.