Our Tania Tells It Like It Is column features Tania Leong as our advice expert who will tell it like it is when it comes solutions to your problems, be it a relationship issue, a problem with your parents or simply if you’re conflicted. Send in your burning questions to marieclaire(at)bluinc(dot)com(dot)my.
Q: I’m in a relationship with an ex-boyfriend whom I met when studying in the US. We broke up then, but when he visited me here for a month, we got back together. He’s in New York so we’ve been trying to keep a long-distance relationship working but it’s very hard because there is only the month he was here to base it on, and we really can’t be absolutely sure if something serious may come of it. What would be the next step for us?
Tania: For a relationship to grow, one must nurture it, one must be involved in it; both of which kinda needs both parties present. To truly get to know someone, it is not only time-alone spent with that person that matters, but also time spent with his friends and family, observing his behaviour in various company and situations, his moods, habits, and consistency. Be realistic of the pros and cons involved in a long distance relationship, and if both of you are prepared to tolerate the sting of being apart, the financial expenses involved in traveling, and are fully aware and mature of the possibility that the relationship may end despite big efforts put in, then “why not?”. Bear this in mind: do what makes you happy most of the time, not just some of the time; if you feel being apart makes you feel sad more months in a year, than happy, then don’t.
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