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Q: I went out with this guy and he really gets me, my sense of humour and all that which not many actually do. For once I can actually say this is ‘the one’ but he just got out of a long relationship and says he is not ready to get into another relationship so soon. The other thing is that he’s also five years younger than I am. I know he needs to experience life and all that before settling down, but what if he meets someone else along the way and we never get back together? Above all, I do not want to lose him as a friend.
Tania: A warning which so many women choose not to listen to! This man has told you exactly where he stands. What he’s actually saying is he doesn’t want to get into a serious relationship with you, and now that he has been honest and laid his cards on the table, he won’t need to take responibility for whatever may happen between you because hey girl, you’ve been warned! It’s his “but I told you I wasn’t ready” Get-Out Card, and he WILL use it.
Let him go. A man knows what he wants. Love yourself, appreciate your own value, maintain a good self-esteem. If he cannot appreciate your value, and is happy to lose you and explore elsewhere, so be it. You deserve better. You deserve “I am ready”, “I want to”, “I am excited, happy, and desire to be with you”!
Friendships come and go. Choose friendships that are healthy for you and bring you joy. Listen to his warning, girl. You’ll be setting yourself up for pain and sorrow if you choose to get intimate with this man.
Tania is the owner of This Wonderful Life, a place Tania opened in 2008 with the intention to create a place of sanctuary, a one-stop space where an individual could find something that could bring them comfort, guidance, empowerment or healing. Everyone comes from a different background, different experience, different perception and interpretation. Tania offer a wide variety of tools and natural healing modalities in the hopes that something will resonate with every individual.You can visit the physical store in Plaza Damas or visit their online store.
Address: This Wonderful Life, M-0-7 Plaza Damas, Jalan Sri Hartamas 1, 50480 Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia