We don’t need to argue the wonders of an orgasm when researches have proven that the tremor-inducing release of serotonin and endorphins can boost the immune system and reduce stress and anxiety.
However, with a wide “pleasure gap” (used to describe the slim number of women who report experiencing orgasms during sex in relation to sex) to bridge in the present day, the main question is how.
Consulting advice from across the scientific spectrum, from medical studies to sexperts to sex therapists on ways to enhance the female orgasm and feel connected to your partner without surrendering your primal right to come, we have come up with 8 tips to achieve better orgasm.
Schedule a game of tennis or sign up for a 5K race. According to a study published in the journal Evolution and Human Behavior, a 24 percent boost in testosterone for women is triggered when anticipating a competition. Any increase in that hormone also drives up your libido so consider it a win-win.
2.Turn Up the Heat
Take a hot bath, or – if you’re short on time – place a warm washcloth over your vulva for a few minutes prior to sex. Hilda Hutcherson, author of Pleasure, mentions that heat boost blood flow to your vagina, resulting in increased lubrication and sensitivity.
3.Tell Steamy Bedtime Stories
Write an erotic story featuring you and your partner before getting him to read it aloud while tucking you in. If you lack naughty-writing know-how, select a sexy read together at a local bookstore and study up on your dirty talk cues.
4. Sip a Sex Tonic
Never doubt the magic of an ancient sex stimulant. Warm some milk, add a pinch of saffron and drink up, shares Aliza Baron Cohen, author of Sex: Rediscovering Desire Through Techniques & Therapies. Saffron releases its intense flavor when heated and has been considered an aphrodisiac for thousands of years.
5.Recharge Your Batteries
According to a survey of 1,656 women conducted by Berman Women’s Wellness Center, women who use vibrators have an easier time achieving orgasm during (vibrator-free) sex with a partner. For the tech-friendly ones, try a vibrating “bullet” attachment that’s discreet enough to fit in your pocket (or on your neck). Or, try one of the many couples’ vibrators out there to get him in the action.
6.Strike at the Optimal Moment
Gabrielle Litchterman, author of 28 Days: What Your Cycle Reveals about Your Love Life, Moods, and Potential shares that your testosterone levels surge, your libido soars and your breasts and clitoris become ultra-sensitive during the first two days of your cycle. Achieving intense orgasm is easier and multiples are much more likely. Experts also suggest timing sex in the early morning when the men are experiencing the highest testosterone levels, or in the afternoon on weekends when women tend to ovulate.
7.Step Up for a Quickie
Pull on a skirt and find a deserted staircase for a stellar sex in a hurry, as suggested by Sex for Busy People and The Field Guide to F*cking author Emily Dubberley. If you’re shorter than the guy, stand a step or two above him before facing him or turning toward the railing so he can enter you from behind. (Hint: Grip the rail for leverage and don’t lean over too far!).
8.Try a New Rhythm Method
Dubberley suggests using the Coital Alignment Technique to majorly elevate your odds of climaxing during sex. Have your partner lie on top of you with his pelvis directly over yours. Then wrap your legs around his thighs and rock together gently. Push up and forward ensures that your clitoris makes contact with the base of his penis. Patience is key: Find your rhythm and stick to it until you orgasm.
Source: Marie Claire U.S