1. DITCHING YOU
She scores 2 tickets to an A-List party. Where you could both dress up in the hottest outfit, do your hair and nails together. And get ready for a great night out. But instead, she conveniently forgets to invite you, and you find out about it on Instagram. Ever happened to you?
The real reason she didn’t invite you is because, she wants to be the only one who went to the party. You might be besties, but she always wants to be better than you. So by not inviting you, she will always be just a little bit cooler than you.
Common excuses may sound like “OMG babe, I totally forgot to invite you. Ohh, I thought you were busy so I didn’t want to disturb you. I thought you were in Singapore this weekend.” This will usually follow with a, “It’s ok I’ll invite you next time or The party wasn’t that great.”
2. SHE FLIRTS WITH YOUR MAN
You’ve both been friends for a very long time, that’s the reason she’s your bestie. So you know her very well. You’ve also gone on a girls night out to look for potential suitors, got to know each other’s boyfriends on double dates. So you know when you bestie is flirting.
Depending on how sneaky your bestie is. “It could be as innocent as ohhh Paul, you’re soo lucky to have her as your girlfriend. I wish I had her beautiful hair.” I mean what could your bf potentially reply. She wishes it was, “Ohh, but you have beautiful hair too.” It’s a sticky situation. Poor Paul has to get in between all this female tension.
There’s also the, do you mind if Paul orders a drink for me. Or Paul you’re such a gentlemen. Some besties even go as far as light touches, and an innocent peck on the cheek.
3. SHE WANTS WHAT YOU HAVE
She spots that you have a new handbag and a new pair of shoes. She compliments you and say wow, that new bag is really nice. Followed by, “Where did you buy it from? You innocently say ohh I got it at this online store.”
She is your bestie, she knows which online stores you frequent. 2 weeks later she turns up for lunch with the same bag and shoes. The excuse, “I bought the same shoes and handbag, I really like them. I hope you don’t mind.”
There aren’t much reply options, “ No, you can’t buy the same things as me.” Any form of resistance to looking like the Olsen twins will end in a cat fight.
4.SHE NEEDS TO BE THE CENTER OF ATTENTION
Your bestie is not comfortable being second place. She wants to be the life of the party. The way to find out is to be in a social setting. Invite her to an event where you know most of the people .
Such as a high school mini reunion or after work drinks with your colleagues. If she tells embarrassing stories about you or is loud, talking nonstop. It’s a sign.
Whether your friend expresses her jealousy of your other friends by trying to tag along on all your plans or by talking bad about your friends, it can put a serious strain on your friendship. Not to mention, it can be awkward… or seriously aggravating.
If your friend doesn’t want to admit they are jealous, they might pull the serious pout. They might act bitchy because everyone is flocking around you at the bar but when you ask them what’s wrong, they say “nothing” with a saccharine smile.
5. SHE COMPETES WITH YOU
Anything you do, they try to do it ten times better. They try to compete with you when it comes to awards and achievements. When it pertains to other mutual friends they try to win their companionship and trust before you do. You decide to bring nachos and guacamole to a business party and they decide to bring homemade tacos. The signs are there and are completely obvious.
How about the time when you ran a 5km marathon, and she suddenly signs up for one. Or the time you start doing yoga after work, and she now has her own personal yoga instructor. And it gets worse, if you don’t give her a reaction. Jealous people need validation that what they have is better than yours.
6. SHE DOWNPLAYS YOUR HAPPINESS
Jealous people can’t stand when good things happen to other people; one of the subtle ways they deal with it is by cutting you down with their words in the veil of offering advice. If you lost weight and are feeling great about your body, they might downgrade your joy by telling you that it’s pretty common for people to gain it all back in a few weeks
If you just landed your dream job, and a pay raise, her comment might be, “Sounds like a boring job, you’ll have no social life.” Or maybe she’ll starts talking about how successful she is at work.
7. SHE EMBARASSES YOU
Your bestie is really into fitness and regularly jogs. And you’re the total opposite, spending your weekends in bed rather than going for a morning jog. She forces you out of bed for a jogging session, you finally agree.
And it turns out you’re joining a local running club, and these guys are super fit. Making you 1) Out of breath 2) Look totally unfit 3) Makes her look better than you.
Her idea of being consoling sounds like this, “I should have told you we were joining the local running club or you did a really good job, you ran soo fast.” And you know you totally failed at this, and she is lying to you, just to make you feel good.