Get Comfortable Talking It Out
If you’re going to engage in period sex with another person (or any kind of sex, really), you should be honest about what you’re into before you get to it. Of course, you might find out your partner isn’t as onboard with making a mess as you are. That’s when it’s time for some real talk. “The most important thing is to be direct, but don’t apologize—women far too often feel compelled to apologize for their bodies,” says Gigi Engle, a writer and certified sex coach. “If your partner doesn’t want to have period sex and this is something that’s very important to you, you should have an honest conversation with him or her.” She says that it’s also not a woman’s job to coddle their partners, but you can make them feel comfortable with voicing their concerns. “Be empathetic, but share all the information,” says Engle.