Dr. Sangeeta Kaur’s counselling journey started when she first attended a talk on psychology and counselling. It was during the talk that she realised that she wanted to put her psychological intuition to good use by helping others to see the best in them so they too can help themselves and others. As aa counsellor, she quickly trained herself to maintain an emotional detachment and told herself to acknowledge that she is not there to rescue her patients. “When a counsellor has this “rescue” mindset, the counselling session will not be as therapeutic as it should be because it is infused by a counsellor’s personal gain of being needed. So, we need to check and balance that need all the time.”
When asked if the negativity has ever affected her during her career, she acknowledged that there have been moments where she too has experienced downtime. “Being a woman is not easy. There’s always a social stigma on how a woman should act, behave, dress, be a mother, be a wife and even how to be a career-driven woman. Negativity comes from many angles and I often question my level of self-worth due to peer- pressure. As I age gracefully, I manage to overcome it.”
One thing that Dr. Sangeeta believes is to always acknowledge the negative thoughts and emotions, as acknowledging the existence is the only way of finding a solution. Even when addressing the issue she strongly believes that one must remain constructive, positive, meaningful and beneficial so one would approach the issue with positive actions. Only then one would find the inner peace within oneself.
“I have this mantra that I frequently use, ‘nothing personal’.
It helps me to view things clearly and it makes me wonder more and reflect on it.” Dr. Sangeeta recommends that everybody has their own way of staying mentally strong. But for her, she believes by being grateful to all the people and events happening around her be it good or bad. One should always acknowledge your own shortcoming and understand no one is perfect. She also advises being mindful of what you do by staying true to yourself and never take things personally. One thing that she feels strongly about is to never point fingers and put the blame on anybody and to stop victim attitude. Dr. Sangeeta believes that all that is part of staying mentally strong even though there is no right or wrong way of doing it.
“Every morning, the moment I open my eyes, with a smile, I will say thank you to God, Universe, Mother Earth, myself, family, career, and anything that comes into my mind at that moment.”