“Jealousy causes us to take precautionary measures. Should those fail and the partner has an affair, the new situation arouses anger, depression and disappointment.” Ralph Hupka, the Professor of Psychology of California State University
So your best friend makes more money than you. Your ex-boyfriend got married first, and your sister is skinnier and has better features than you, but feeling bitter and envious won’t get you anywhere. If you’re feeling envious of others, learn to recognise the harmful effect it has on your life. For instance, feeling spiteful and envious may fill you with self-pity and may prevent you from taking constructive steps to focus on the positive and make your life better instead. Feeling envious can bind your freedom and lead to resentment and bitterness. This, in turn, can result in you striking out at those you’re envious of with malicious acts and words. So stop! Why focus on other people’s lives when there is so much good happening in your own. Once you learn to be thankful and be happy with what you have, you’ll feel a huge load lift from your heart and shoulders. Focus on yourself and chase your own dreams rather than dwell on other’s fortunes, and pretty soon you’ll be feeling blessed and successful too in your own right.