Adele Suffered From Postpartum Depression After Her Son Was Born
28-year-old British singer Adele recently opened up to Vanity Fair about the struggles of motherhood and how she suffered from postpartum depression after the birth of her son, Angelo. She said that because of her experiences with postnatal depression, she is currently “too scared” to have a second child.
When she had her first son with long-term boyfriend, charity CEO Simon Konecki, Adele admitted that due to feeling “inadequate”, she felt like she made “the worst decision of my life”.
“My knowledge of postpartum is that you don’t want to be with your child; you’re worried you might hurt your child; you’re worried you weren’t doing a good job.”
Although she wasn’t up for taking antidepressants, she did initially feel uncomfortable talking about it to anyone. Her boyfriend had suggested her to talk to other mothers, but she went against it at first. Eventually she found herself “gravitating towards pregnant women and other women with children”, saying that “they’re a bit more patient.”
Eventually, the singer made the decision to put aside some time for herself. “Eventually I just said, I’m going to give myself an afternoon a week, just to do whatever the f**k I want without my baby. A friend of mine said, ‘Really? Don’t you feel bad?’ I said, I do, but not as bad as I’d feel if I didn’t do it.” After all, even famous mothers need a break once in a while, with such a busy career – it’s amazing how she is still able to juggle it all.
Nowadays it’s common for women in their early 20s or even early 30s to grimace at the thought of having children. Having a sorted career that will make them happy and a life without the responsibility of taking care of a little human being has become #goals for millennial women. “I think it’s the bravest thing not to have a child; all my friends and I felt pressurized into having kids, because that’s what adults do,” Adele said. “I love my son more than anything, but on a daily basis, if I have a minute or two, I wish I could whatever the f**k I wanted, whenever I want. Every single day I feel like that.”
Adele also said that even though she struggled with having her own personal time after giving birth, never let it be said that she tried to push her child away. If anything, she hasn’t been depressed since her difficulties with postpartum, and has managed to find that sweet spot in balancing her busy life and her me-time. “I never feel guilty when I’m not working. You’re constantly trying to make up for stuff when you’re a mom. I don’t mind, because of the love I feel for him… I don’t care if I don’t ever get to do anything for myself again.”