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I’ve been with my bf for over 3 years – it’s been a lot of ups and downs but we do share the uncanny ability to make each other laugh and get over the bad times. However, recently I’m finding that I can’t talk to him about more serious stuff ie. political, current issues because he just changes the topic. I understand that I shouldn’t force someone to talk about things they have no interest in, so should I just let it out with friends who share the same interest? Will this affect our relationship as I develop my worldview, on my own?
Does he not talk to you about politics or current issues because he’s just not interested in those topics, or because he has a different opinion of it from you and prefers to avoid argument?
Relationships can work, despite differences. It’s whether or not both parties (not just one) can respect each other’s differences, and difference of opinion. There are many qualities to look for in a man, and it’s a matter of prioritizing which is top of the list for you, and to what degree. If talking about political matters etc. is the top half of your list, then yes in the long-run, it will likely affect your relationship because you will get frustrated with him being non-engaging, and he will get irritated with you for carrying on.
But if he’s not interested in those topics only because he finds them boring, then i suggest that it’s easy enough to find others (friends) with whom you can have such discussions with. There are so many other things you can enjoy with your man, and surely there must be plenty to talk about with your boyfriend, other than politics and current affairs? If however, both have very strong opposing opinions on such matters, then the relationship is bound to be rocky i.e. opinions on politics and religion are quite often reflections of one’s core values and principles; so if you’re with a partner who goes against your core, then that’s a more serious issue.
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