No we’re not asking you to get your man bowing down to you, or to bring you grapes on a silver platter (actually, we wouldn’t really mind that), we’re simply saying that it’s time you play Queen in the sack and let the sex that comes after speak for itself.
While some may equate the Queen to the Dominant, we do see some resemblances yet some disparity between the two. The Queen is known as the older, classier sister of the Dominant. The Queen knows what she wants and doesn’t make her man second-guess. She makes it a point that he knows what he should be doing. Elegant and refined, the Queen uses her power wisely and gets treated how she wants to be treated exactly. We’ve got some tips on how YOU can be Queen of the bedroom tonight!
#1 Confidence, confidence and more confidence
We can’t reiterate this enough, fierce confidence is key. Whether it’s getting what you want in the world or the bedroom, it all boils down to having confidence. There is nothing sexier than being sure of what you what and not being ashamed to go in there to get it.
The Queen who is confident makes things exciting, because she stirs a man’s innate sense of challenge. So, get dressed (or undressed) in your sexiest lingerie, stockings and heels and let that confidence kick in. Once you have got him engaged and the game is in full throttle, he will be having so much fun being taken along on the ride, he won’t even notice that you have hold of the reins!
#2 Tell him what you want
Once your confidence takes over, there’s no other way to say it-only forward. If you want the foreplay to last longer, tell him. If you want him to caress you in a specific way, tell him. If you want him to position himself a certain way, tell him!
When being the Queen, he needs to know that you’re the one in control and not him. Take some pointers from the Dominant and maybe order him around as well so that he gets the message. Communication is key while being Queen because he needs to know what you want and how to please you. And remember every single detail matters!
#3 Be on top
Probably the easiest way to introduce a more ‘sovereign’ side of yourself in the bedroom is through new sex positions. Instead of the usual positions like missionary and “doggy-style”, where your man is on top and the one in control, try switching to positions where you’re on top and calling the shots.
The obvious position that comes to mind for this is “cowgirl”, where your man is on his back and you are on top of him, straddling him, but there are other great positions for dominating your man, too. These include positions like “sofa surprise”, where your man sits down on a sofa, couch or chair and you straddle him. In this position it’s very hard for him to go anywhere and again, you’re the one in control.
#4 Give back as much as he gives
Everyone respects a Queen for giving back to her ‘people’. Think of it that way and give back just as much, maybe even more to your man! Instead of asking him what he wants, play a guessing game and tickle his fancy or go all out on what he particularly enjoys the most. This will take him by surprise and wouldn’t mind taking orders from you during sexy time again.